Snowball Effect

March 14, 2010

Have you ever had a day that seemed to start off rotten?  The term woke up on the wrong side of the bed didn’t come out of nowhere.  It was originated from superstitions centuries ago about getting out of bed literally on the wrong side or using the wrong foot to step onto the floor first out of bed, but we’ve been using it for years to mean one woke up in a foul mood or that the day has just been awful from the beginning.

It’s interesting how often we continue to have a bad day when it starts off badly. Or if something happens to us that we aren’t happy with it can often spoil an otherwise nice day.  This is because we allow it to snowball – one negative sending us into a downward spiral leading into one thing after another not working right, people being rude and so forth making the day go right down the so-called toilet.  Sometimes, this can lead into another day or weeks or months at a time being terrible.

This happened to me this morning. I had a few days that were overall good but my four-year old son, who’s testing his limits right now, really pushed me for a few days after school.  Then yesterday, Saturday, I was home with him and my daughter alone, as my husband was at work. My son really was having a rough day and pushed and pushed and I never caught my breath.  Even last night, I just was so frazzled and everything had spiraled, that I was in such a foul mood it was a “Watch out for Mommy, she’s on the warpath!” kind of night.  And it was. I was awake with the stress of it until 3:30 am this morning and awake again with the stress at 7:00 with my son.

As I was waiting for my water to boil for my morning tea, I remembered that a good friend had sent a letter which came yesterday and was excited to see what she had to say. I opened it carefully so not to damage the beautiful picture of the Eiffel Tower that she had stuck to the back of the envelope.  That picture by itself was a reminder that we are each supporting each other in a dream to go to Paris. I read her card and beautiful note. It brought me to tears and gave me a chance to reset how I was feeling inside. I immediately felt appreciation for her, gratitude for her thoughtfulness, and even had a chance to bring my thoughts to my son who came running over with a smile on his face. Coincidence that his mood had changed (if even for a minute)?  Not a chance!

Are you tired of your life spiraling with one bad moment after another? Do you ever wonder how you can reset things on your own before they do spiral?  I have a remedy and I’ll share it with you.

First thing in the morning, think of something you’re grateful for, whether it’s your health, your home, your family or something else you have that you really are happy to have.  If you find yourself in a spot at the moment where life is looking a little bleak and you can’t think of something right now, think of everything you do have and think about “what if I didn’t have ____”.  If it’s something you would miss having, then you just found something to be grateful for having!  Yay! Even if you’d rather have a nicer house, a better car or a newer wardrobe, you do have something you can be grateful for.  Think of this thing, or things first thing in the morning, before you even put your feet on the floor. Start each day off with the attitude of gratitude and it will at least start off right. Even if you can’t muster the reset on your own, if you start off the day with gratitude like I did today, something will happen that will bring you the chance to reset – like the letter I received from my friend.

So what happens when you have a bad hair day or your car gets a flat tire on the way to work or your boss starts yelling at you about something or your four-year old is pushing you to the limit?  I have a remedy for that too! Rather than let it spoil your attitude and your entire day in return, keep your wits about you.  Take a breath.  If you need to walk away to do it, that’s fine; even if you need to find the nearest bathroom to do so.  If you have a young child depending on you, it’s more difficult sometimes, but there will be a point during the day or night where you should be able to grab a minute.  Think again about something you’re grateful for, and if it’s something that will make you laugh aloud, even better!  So if your boss is bugging you to bits, take a deep breath and see what you can be grateful for surrounding the issue. Do this any time something happens that has the potential to bring you down. Move forward in your day with a continued attitude of gratitude.

Shifting your perspective to the belief that even if you can’t see what it is at the moment there will be a positive outcome from everything that happens – no matter what – will help a great deal.  This goes back to the old saying that when a door closes another one opens.  If you’ve never heard that, it just means that when something in your life closes (you lost your job, you got divorced, etc.), more possibilities open up for you like more job possibilities, new relationships, etcetera.

Start living in love and gratitude every day, know and believe that people will be nicer, kinder, more respectful, generous, loving, gentle, caring, sharing, compassionate and anything else that will positively affect your life and everyone else’s lives around you. Be more of the things you want to see in everyone else. Do everything with thoughtfulness and love, even the mundane tasks of everyday life. Be appreciative of the people you have in your life. Be grateful for the things you have big or small. I know that when you shift your perspective from a negative one to a positive one that everything changes. I’ve had it happen in my own life.

Have you witnessed this happen in your own life or someone else’s? Please share your thoughts in the comments area.

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Giovanna April 18, 2010 at 7:28 PM

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